If you and your spouse have decided to get divorced, you may assume that the process will remain amicable. However, you may find that proceedings quickly become contentious and that disagreements seem to happen often.
Conflict during the divorce process can take a toll on both your emotional and physical wellbeing. While some level of conflict is inevitable, there are ways you can reduce conflict during the divorce process.
Communicate openly
Although the divorce rate in the U.S. has dropped to the lowest point in 50 years, according to the Institute for Family Studies, many couples still decide to end their marriages and often, these couples struggle with communication. Try to maintain a civil and respectful dialogue with your spouse, focusing on the issues at hand. Clear communication can help both parties better understand each other’s perspectives and reach compromises more easily.
Prioritize your children
If you have children, prioritize their well-being during the divorce process. Keep their best interests in mind when making decisions regarding custody, visitation and child support. If both parents can work together to create a stable and nurturing environment, it can greatly reduce conflict.
Manage your emotions
Emotions can run high during this challenging time, but acting out of anger or frustration can escalate conflicts. Seek emotional support from friends, family or a counselor to help you cope with your feelings in a healthy way.
Focus on the future
Rather than dwelling on the past, shift your focus toward the future. Consider your long-term goals and what you want to achieve after the divorce. This forward-looking perspective can help you make decisions that are in your best interest and reduce conflict.
If you feel like conflict between you and your spouse gets excessive during divorce proceedings, limit contact with your former partner. Although you may still feel familiar with your former spouse, try to only speak to him or her during divorce-related proceedings and conversations.