Now that summer is here, your children are probably out of school and ready to enjoy a nice, long break. If you and your spouse are divorced, however, this could potentially become a very tricky situation since you will both want to spend some quality time with the kids. It is important to remember that this is your children’s summer as well and you and your ex should not ruin it by arguing the entire time over who gets to spend time with them and when. If you are not sure how to do this, fear not – you are not alone in this.
We have compiled a list of helpful tips that can help you and your family enjoy a summer that is less stressful and more fun:
- Review the parenting agreement: Oftentimes, trouble can be avoided when both parties take the time to review their parenting agreement before embarking on making any elaborate summer plans. In fact, there might even be some details in your plan that discuss how the summer break is to be handled. If not, now is the time to draft a plan that works not only for both of you, but for the children as well. Make sure the plan is realistic, feasible, and does not conflict with any of the activities your children might be enrolled in.
- Plan for special trips or events: The summer holiday has many special events, including the Fourth of July, Memorial Day, and Labor Day and, if your parenting plan does not address how they are to be handled, you and your ex-spouse will end up vying for them at the last minute. Do not face these issues as they come your way. Instead, meet with your respective attorneys and work on a plan together and ensure that it is signed off on by a judge. You might be able to work this out informally on your own, but the problem with that is, if one of you backs out and chooses to ignore your informal agreement, it cannot be enforced.
- Be flexible and try to consider the desires of your children: While no one is suggesting that you let your children dictate how you and your ex-spouse work out your plans for the summer, you might want to be a little flexible and consider what their own wishes are. If it is reasonable, it might not be a bad idea to plan for something you know they would particularly enjoy. Simply be mindful of any academic or extracurricular activities they might also have scheduled for the season.
- Let them stay in contact: No matter how you slice it, neither you nor your spouse will be able to have everything you want this summer and you will have to spend some time away from your kids. Not only will this be hard for both of you, but it will also be hard for your children. After all, it is completely normal for them to miss their parents! So, while this might be your special time with them, make sure you allow them to remain in contact with their other parent when they are with you. This can be done through phone calls, texts, emails, FaceTime, or whatever works best for everyone. When both you and your ex-spouse are considerate of one another, you can effectively reduce many unnecessary fights and hurt feelings, making life easier for your children.
Child Custody Attorneys in Grand Rapids
If you and your former spouse are in the middle of a custody dispute, you will need skilled legal guidance on your side to ensure the process goes as smoothly as possible and serves the best interests of you and your family. At Haskell Law, PC, our Grand Rapids family law attorney has more than 10 years of proven legal experience, so you can be confident that your case will be in good hands.
Contact our office today at (616) 920-6664 to schedule your confidential case review and learn more about your options.